I wish I’d learned this sooner about boundaries...

Being in an abusive and violent relationship in my twenties taught me a lot about boundaries.

Here’s what I learned:

Violating your boundaries in the name of empathy isn't spiritual and all it does is make you a refuge for someone else's pain. 

You can be empathetic towards someone, and yes, you may be able to understand the origins of another person’s wounding, but you also need to recognise that you don't deserve, nor do you need to put up with, how they’re treating you.

Their scars are no excuse for the wounds they afflict on you, and you can’t stay and continue to let them treat you in unacceptable ways.

If you keep giving them excuses and safe places for their demons instead of demanding that they heal, the only thing you are doing is withering your own spirit. Because they will never change whilst you continue to let them take out their pain on you.

Choose yourself. Always. 

Love Sarah x

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